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In case there are any families out there that are having some down time over the end of year holidays, we thought it would be a nice time to talk about one of our favourite books on managing relationships with young children. It’s How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: a survival guide to life with children ages 2 – 7. It’s a fantastic book that’s got lots of practical suggestions for dealing with things ranging from emotions, cooperation, conflict, food and sibling rivalry. Today, we thought we’d discuss their tips on handling emotions.
The Educators at Adventurers Wyndham Vale see children with so many different personalities that they need to have a range of tools available. One of our favourite strategies for dealing with big emotions is acknowledging those feelings. When we acknowledge feelings, it makes it much easier for children to manage those than if we accidently ‘deny’ them or contradict them. This can happen when we say things like: “don’t worry that the toy was broken, you didn’t really like it”.
Here are four tools that we’ve found have been useful for acknowledging emotions.
When we acknowledge feelings with words, we empathise with our children and put ourselves on the same side as them. This helps them feel understood. For example:
You don’t just have to acknowledge feelings with words, you can also do it with writing. For example:
Sometimes, drawing can be a great way to illustrate how we feel. For example:
Sometimes, the fact that we show that we’d like to do something is enough for our children to feel understood. For example:
When we acknowledge emotions, children feel understood. It’s much easier for everyone – young or old – to accept limits when they feel understood.
Tools for Engaging Cooperation
Sometimes, it can be hard to get children to cooperate! Getting children to get dressed each morning or getting them in the car can be some of the hardest things!
The educators in our Wyndham Vale and Point Cook centres have used some of the techniques ins How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: a survival guide to life with children ages 2 – 7, with great success. While we can’t cover the whole book, here are a few of our favourite suggestions:
While it can sometimes be hard work, making things fun for children can be the best way to have a more cooperative environment.
Make it a game
Make inanimate objects talk
Use silly voices
Pretend not to know
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