Setting Boundaries for Children – Helpful Tips for Parents

Rules are a part of life, and we all have to abide by them. It’s never too early to set boundaries for your child, and in doing so you will be laying the foundations for a happy and productive future. When your child knows what is expected of them, they will start to develop a sense of responsibility, and independence which will serve them will throughout their lives. 

In this blog post Adventurers will share some tips for parents which will prove useful when setting healthy boundaries for your child at home.

Try Problem Solving

Depending on the age of your child, it can be helpful to involve your child in the setting of boundaries. For example, if you’re worried about safety in the carpark – try brainstorming different options. In many situations you can find something that works well for both of you. It also gives your child a sense of autonomy and builds their own problem-solving skills.

Clear Communication

It’s important that your child has a clear understanding of the boundaries you have set., This requires good communication. Sit down with your child and explain the need and reason for the boundaries you choose to set, and ask if they have any questions. 

Initially your child may respond with anger, sadness or disappointment. However, you should know that boundaries are important for a child’s development, as they help in developing a sense of safety and security whilst also setting them up for success in their adult life. When your child understands the boundaries, they will start to develop self-discipline, the ability to make healthy choices and respect for your wishes. 

Keep Boundaries Age Appropriate

When seitting limits for your child, you need to consider their age. If you put too many boundaries in place, or if they are unrealistic, your child may feel overly restricted. 

Sit down and think about the boundaries you believe are necessary, and others which you might be prepared to forego. As your child gets older, you may wish to ease or remove some boundaries altogether. Make sure you keep your child involved in the negotiation process, as this will help to strengthen your relationship and ensure an amicable agreement is reached.  

Most families have goals for their children which involve being confident adults that can make their own good decisions. Think about whether the environment you’re creating for your child is conducive to the type of adult you want them to grow to become.

Be a Role Model 

Children are very observant of what adults are doing around them, so it is important that you live up to the values you expect of them. Some of the values you may wish to instil in your child might include:

• Honesty

• Integrity

• Patience

• Empathy

• Compassion for others

• Determination

It is important that you demonstrate a commitment to these values in your everyday life, and in doing so your child will look up to you as a positive role model and be more likely to take after you. You can also take the opportunity to discuss challenges that you’re facing with your child so that they understand the process that you’re following. This creates many learning opportunities for them.